Week 8 and a wee problem.

A wee problem indeed.

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Smalls is just too small still to make it through every night dry. She really is just a slight thing and apparently this is quite the common issue. I am not telling tales out of school here to embarrass anyone, but to start a discussion about why on earth the changeable bed protectors are so bleeping expensive. When I was little, my mother had some very unfancy but effective rubber pads she topped the sheets with and that was it. Now when I went to buy some similar things for Clover, I was confronted with a scant two different brands both with options to buy ONE overly packaged, multi layered piece of hype for nearly $70 PLUS SHIPPING. I will need two as I am not going to be doing laundry in the middle of the night to pop the one pad I could afford back on. Eventually I found one of those on sale for $50.00 in a store. No shipping, bargain, huh? And it also came with a kit featuring a program and a chart!

Hogwash. Here is my program (after ensuring all is physically well): Don’t make a big deal out of it, support her until she grows out of it just like my mother did for me and in the mean time have a stack of rubber mats to rotate so you don’t have to change an entire top bunk (filled with more stuffed animals that real ones on the ark) at 3 in the morning.  

So, I bought a big bathmat. One side is completely rubber coated. If it works, I will go and buy some more to swap out in the middle of the night. They are a whole lot comfier than what my mother used in the 70′s and a lot less expensive than what is out there to buy today. Those two companies make a point to install some fear in buying anything else out there because it might not be BPA free or what have you. I would just like to remind them that my child will be lying in pee on top of their mat, so who the F cares. 

*rant over*

You know who does care? Clover’s sweet little twin brother. He is so darling and waited outside the unplanned early morning shower for her holding a towel. She got out and he wrapped it around her so she would not be cold. My heart exploded into a billion happy pieces. The fact that my camera was right there at 6AM was a beautiful thing.

Here is an outtake from the morning and don’t forget to go and check out the rest of the images on the collaborative blog that I am a part of weekly this year, Let The Wild Rumpus Last!

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    • Cathleen Douglas via Facebook - Rachel, medical supply stores sell disposable pads. I’m not sure about how costly they are but you might want to investigate.ReplyCancel

    • Karen from Chookooloonks - Here’s a trick: Buy TWO pads, and double-sheet the bed: so, mattress, pad, sheet, pad, sheet. That way, in the middle of the night, all you have to do is rip off the first sheet & pad, and voila, instant dry sheets to last the rest of the night. :)

      Bless her sweet heart.

      K.ReplyCancel

      • sesame - OMG! You are BRILLIANT! I would hug you, but you hate cuddles!!!!!!!!ReplyCancel

      • Breanne - This really is BRILLIANT.ReplyCancel

      • Katie - Great idea! Is it still comfy?ReplyCancel

    • Rachel Devine Photography / sesame ellis via Facebook - I have considered that Cathleen, but after so many years of buying diapers, I was hoping to get away with something more reusable. I even considered puppy pads!!!!! I did find some reusable ones in the states for $12, but the shipping to Aus was close to $80. Sigh.ReplyCancel

    • Cathleen Douglas via Facebook - Shipping costs are brutal!!!ReplyCancel

    • julie - So awesome. Loved this story. I hope my kids are as loving to each other as yours (2.5 mos and 2.5 yrs right now).ReplyCancel

    • Cathleen Douglas via Facebook - Don’t I wish!!! ❤️ReplyCancel

    • Louise Fletcher - Love it. We have faced the same thing with our little one. Now just 6 and we have turned a corner. The pads saved us. We have 4. Two from Aldi (they don’t always have them) for $39 (???) and there is a company in Melbourne – Slumber Dry where I got 2 shipped to Sydney. I just looked and 2 are $105!!!! I think I paid $80 for 2 awhile back. Yes, I see what you mean. But they saved us, and the bed and our sanity. Good luck. Love your attitude about it.ReplyCancel

    • Irina - This is beautiful. Their relationship is something out if this world. And the wee problem – I agree with you, support her and just go with it. Let this be the biggest upsetting moment in her life. :) ReplyCancel

    • Breanne - You are such a wonderful mother, but my heart burst into a million pieces too at your boy’s sweetness toward his sister. Seriously. The cutest and kindest ever! You keep doing what you’re doing because the wee problem will eventually resolve, but the love in you’ve instilled will last forever.ReplyCancel

    • Jacquelyn Satmaka via Facebook - Similar thing here with my little girl. I got two plastic table cloths from the cheap shop for $6 ($3 each) and make the bed up: mattress protector, plastic, fitted sheet, plastic, fitted sheet. My kid moves around a lot and this way covers the whole bed. You are spot on that a bath mat does exactly the same job as those rip off things.ReplyCancel

    • Jennifer Russ Haney via Facebook - We use vinyl (PVC free) shower curtains. Works like a charm. We have a lot of accidents to deal with here, but our mattresses are fine. Shower curtain, regular mattress pad, and then sheets.ReplyCancel

    • Katie Yeung via Facebook - We’ll sew some, rachel. I have a heap of old towling nappies that could be easily made into a bed pad.ReplyCancel

    • Karen Linnell via Facebook - Kieran seems like such a dear boy.ReplyCancel

    • Naamah - We have the (from memory) $5.00 fitted plastic sheet from Coles and make it up in layers on the bed. Mates, plastic sheet, real sheet, plastic sheet, real sheet. A friend’s little boy had big issues with this for a while and she would make around 4 layers so she didn’t have to think in the night. Very cheap too!ReplyCancel

    • Catherine Way - I too, do the multiple layers thing to save thinking in the night. I use waterproof mattress protectors, like a fitted sheet with plastic lining one side and fabric feel on upper side (and then sheet over that). I got them at Spotlight, I think $30.ReplyCancel

    • Jane Dando via Facebook - what a sweet brotherReplyCancel

    • Jessy - I bought “brolly sheets” for my kids. They are fantastic. Google them. :-) ReplyCancel

    • Katie - We still use nappies and pull ups. My girl is 5 and has never been dry at night. It is hard because she is getting too big for them. She is tall for 5. Definately with you on the not making a big thing of it. I find it hard, she was dry for 4 nights in a row last week for the first time ever and I found myself getting excited then disappointed when she was wet again. My brothers were both wet at night into their teens so I think it is something genetic, no amount of “behavioural modification” changed anything. Just time.ReplyCancel

    • Imene - A trick that worked for my children was to take them to the bathroom when it was time for me to go to bed. I would pick them up around 11:30 take them to the bath and they wouldn’t even wake up.
      After a while we stopped and everything was ok. I have found the incidents to be linked to a growth spurt or a major change like starting schoolReplyCancel

    • IME - Can you find rubberized flannel? That’s what we used to protect the bed from accidents when our kids were little. It was inexpensive and easy to wash and not too weirdly crinkly/uncomfortable. What a sweet thing for brother to do — wonderful. :) ReplyCancel

    • Beckett Gladney - The double sheeting idea is so brilliant! Can’t think why we never thought of it! One of our twins had night-time wee issues until he was around 7 or 8; we tried very hard not to let it be an issue and he did indeed eventually grow out of it. For many kids it’s a matter of actual physical maturation; our pediatrician told us that with many kids their inner parts just need more time to develop and learn how to cope and to be patient. We never found a good solution to the waterproofing part either; wish I’d thought of the bathmats idea. And how awesome is it that her twin is so caring and sweet?!ReplyCancel

    • Laura Blanquet - Hi Sesame!

      I’m Laura, I’m 21 years old and I’m from Buenos Aires, Argentina.
      Reading your blog is like part of my rutine, and I absolutely love your photos.

      I felt particularly touched by this issue. This happened to me until I was maybe 12 years old.
      I didn’t know why I was like that, I was really conscious at the moment of “the problem” but I didn’t know how to control it.
      I can’t remember anything else, but some time ago I ask my yoga teacher why children have this problem and he said: is the reaction to fear.
      It makes sense to me, I was really afraid of darkness plus my parent’s divorce.
      It can be normal fears too, like a horror movie or violence scenes and things like that.

      This really distressed me when I was young and I can’t believe how brave your kids are! The feelings they share for each other is awsome. I congratulate you for having such beautiful and well educated kids.

      Regards from Argentina!

      PS: my mom used to put a plastic sheet under my sheets just not to ruin the mattress..she wanted to buy me diapers but that embarrassed me.ReplyCancel

    • Anastasija - Thank you for this post, Rachel. How did you read my mind that i needed a post like this? I am a first time mum to a 4 year okd and how to get her dry at night has been on my mind constantly for last few weeks, there was just not a strategy out there and now inhave it! Thank you! And the sibling love! Melt my heart! XxReplyCancel

    • Marianne Rayos del Sol-Uil via Facebook - Pumpkin patch has Brolly sheets for $40 and offers free shipping I think. Also aldi had bed pads in their catalogue for similar price last week.ReplyCancel

    • Clare - While I am all up for sharing trials and tribulations on the internet of our day to day lives, I feel as though you have not left one stone unturned in the short comings and challenges you have had with your three children. How do you think they are going to feel about this when they are old enough to read all about it themselves, let alone their friends. So when they are at school and one of their friends finds your TELL ALL blog and all of a sudden everyone knows about Clovers wee problem. Hey I am all up for sharing, but something tells me your kids wont be thanking you. I just feel it is blog fodder for you. And that’s are real shame.ReplyCancel

      • sesame - Clearly I don’t feel the same way and you actually just proved that you don’t know me at all. I am sorry that you feel ashamed by natural and harmless things in life. In fact, I truly believe that hiding things and being embarrassed about things creates the environment where bullying and the like fester and grow. I don’t live my life like that and my family does not either. We surround ourselves with people who feel the same. If you read the post, you would see that I had the same issue as a child. I am not embarrassed. And by posting this and putting it out there, through the comments, all positive except yours, I have found new solutions and helped someone feel less alone.
        I am an open and loving mother and you and I do not see eye to eye on this at all. We never will. That is fine, we don’t need to. Through my blogging, I have developed a really thick skin and I have also learned how to spot the people I need in my life and weed out the rest. I am giving my kids the confidence to deal with people like you.
        Life is blog fodder, yes, because my blog is about my life. Go figure.
        Also, challenges, yes, short comings, no.ReplyCancel

        • Robin Troxell - You are so classy Rachel – I truly believe that the more we “hide” normal things that the more ashamed we are, and that we teach our children to be. My 7 year old has occasional accidents and my 4.5 yr old isn’t even considering being dry at night – have loved these ideas. We use a $10 plastic sheet under the normal sheet – had never thought of layering them so as not to change sheets in the night (brilliant). I don’t want my kids to feel bad about their bodies – esp for something they cannot control. My ped did suggested sometimes constipation can cause the bladder to be smaller (just by being pressed on by the poo) and so I have paid some attention and do see a correlation if my son doesn’t have a bowel movement that day he is more likely to have an accident that night. Or when he is more tired, stays up later (I know wtf he went to the bathroom later – but no matter) or is upset. So, just watching and waiting and making sure no medical issues are at hand, but letting them grow out of it. Apparently my mom did laundry nightly for me til past 5… :-)
          Hugs to you Rachel!ReplyCancel

    • Clare - Correct, we don’t see eye to eye. I don’t photograph my children when they are sick in hospital and post it online.ReplyCancel

      • sesame - Exactly. And see, I’m the one not judging for the differences…ReplyCancel

      • Be Still - Clare go troll elsewhere. Or better yet, use your time to do good in the world instead of writing negative, judgemental screes on other people’s blogs. Yuck.ReplyCancel

    • Clare - You know, I may seem as if I am judging, but I often wonder why parents would spend time shooting their kids in pain, emotionally or physically. Like when your kid has a smashed up face and he is crying and all he probably wants is a cuddle from his mum, not her “sponsored camera review” of the week shoved in his face. I just don’t get it. And I guess I feel if I don’t get it, then how is your little kid going to? That’s all. I won’t write anymore. After all you’re right, its your blog. Just wanted to voice my opinion, that’s what blogs are for right?ReplyCancel

      • sesame - Throwing in “sponsored camera review” clearly shows your bias right there. You have NO idea what goes on before and after one moment of time captured by the camera. Not a clue. And if you think for a moment that my first reaction to a hurt child is let me grab my camera, you again don’t know me. If after cuddles or what have you, yes, I document. It is who I am and I don’t think we could ever be friends.
        Blogs are for enjoyment and information and online community. They are for supporting like minded friends and supporting one another through life. Blogs are for finding your tribe. If you don’t agree, don’t read. Don’t look. There is a lot out on the internet that I don’t like, so I just don’t read it. My opinion doesn’t mean anything to them. Doesn’t mean I would not think about it. Quite the opposite, but here is where we differ. I try to understand it from their point of view because I have found that if something makes me mad or upset, it has something to do with me and it is up to me to work on that. In the end though, I kind of lean towards the idea that parents love their children. We all have different ways.
        I am sure that if you are a parent, you love your kids. You feel like you don’t want them “online” and that is your choice. I could judge your decision and a few years ago, I might have. There was a time where I would have thought how paranoid and helicopter, but I have done a lot of thinking and here is what I know. I know, I don’t know you. I don’t know your path in life. I don’t have to raise your kids. I don’t have to live your life. And you don’t have mine. So I will keep my nose out of it unless I have something nice to say. You don’t get it because you are making judgements on that one moment you see. You have never commented here before which means unlike most others, you have never taken the time to engage… My kids will get it because they are living it. They are getting the 24 hours of love and real life every day. They get it because they know the whole story and I am making sure that they understand that they don’t need to judge others story, but asking questions of themselves and starting conversations is great.
        Also, when I review cameras, like the latest Df, you will see that I did not get to keep that camera. I did not get paid either. While I am very grateful for the sponsored opportunities that allow me to keep sharing my images online and support my family as I have been doing online since 2005, I don’t go out looking for things to make sponsored. That isn’t my motivation. Photographing life and helping others take great photos and feel less alone in the process is my motivation. Not that I have any problem with bloggers getting paid. If I love to read someone, I am thrilled for them when they are able to get paid for what they love to do. I celebrate people making something out of nothing. I think that is grand.ReplyCancel

    • kerry - (((hugs))) to you and C. I hardly think that any of her school friends years from now will be examining your blog for things to make fun of her for…and why would something like this even register on the bullying radar? “Oh, ha, ha, you had bedtime pee problems when you were little…” Um…don’t a lot of kids? Geez.

      I’m glad you share your stories and pictures. It makes me feel less alone as a mom, with “real” kids and a “real” (messy, sometimes hard, sometimes fun, sometimes sad) life.

      Ignore the haters…so not worth it. Love you!ReplyCancel

      • sesame - Thank you Kerry! I kind of feel like if any of her “friends” make fun of her, they are not friends anyway, so a good way to rule out the fakes in her life. And yes, I am sharing real life here…not just the shiny bits. It helps us connect as humans.ReplyCancel

    • #bedwetter4life - I’m quite grateful that you are so open and honest about daily life with young kids. We have a lot of the same experiences here in my home with young children. It’s always interesting to see where the mean, envious, and petty girls from school would congregate after they became adults. Apparently they all became someone named Clare and decided to troll your blog. It’s good to see that they found a new purpose in life.ReplyCancel

    • Sarah - Nightime wetness issues have nothing to do with anything…sounds like you guys are handling it well. One of The Kid’s friends was in pull ups at night into 2nd grade – her body just wasn’t ready to hold it that long, and she wouldn’t wake up to go. Sleepovers at our house with pull-ups? You’d better believe those happened. She’ll be ready when she’s ready.ReplyCancel

    • marybeth - My C wet the bed almost every night from the time he was fully potty trained during the day until he was about 4 years old. After that, he did it here and there (about once or twice a week, but sometimes not at all for a week or more) for another year or so. What I found to be the best at protecting the actual mattress was a waterproof fitted sheet that goes on underneat the regular sheet. It is plastic/vinyl backed, but soft on the top. You don’t even notice it there, but it will keep the mattress dry. I kept two layers – waterproof sheet, regular sheet, waterproof sheet, regular sheet so that if he did go in the middle of the night, we could strip off the first layer, wipe him off, and send him back to bed. He hated dealing with it in the middle of the night, so the less involved at 3am the better. Here is a link to what we used. I like these a lot, and they aren’t too expensive. http://www.northshorecare.com/protectabed-basic.html?utm_source=google&utm_medium=shopping&utm_campaign=product&gdftrk=gdfV22386_a_7c1491_a_7c6914_a_7c7671&gclid=CNCr_fK6zr0CFUNqOgodaEkAiwReplyCancel

    • marybeth - Oh, and not a lot of people know this, but bedwetting is common for kids who have bad allergies and eczema. We were told this during a visit with C’s allergy specialist when he was 4 years old. I know Clover also has eczema (which is also usually linked to allergies/asthma) so I wanted to mention that.ReplyCancel

      • Robin Troxell - I had never heard that link – very interesting I will read more about that.ReplyCancel

    • Michaela - When my cousin was having trouble staying dry at night, we got Pampers Change Mats – now, I don’t know if you can get them in Australia but they are a god send.ReplyCancel

    • Jennifer - Thanks for sharing, I love hearing new ideas. I have 8 year old twin boys and both have the issue at night and still where pullups. Always looking for other alternatives to help resolve this issue.ReplyCancel

    • Shannon - In the medial supply store they have bed pads very thick that they use in hospitals. They actually sell them at Target here in the US as well. Washable and awesome. They line the while bed. So I put pad, sheet, pad, then sheet again. Also here in the states they have a rubber mattress pad so I zip the mattress in that first just in case ;) now zipping the mattress in a plastic bag is not the easiest thing I might have cussed a few times but totally worth it!ReplyCancel

    • Cat - Ahhhhhhh I am loving the brother sister love ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ReplyCancel

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